Depressed white-collar crying hurts laughter and hurts
Case: “Traumatic” Liu Chao is particularly reluctant to go to work recently.
At the same time, Wei Ran in the office was either a long sigh or a bitter hatred. There was also Sun Fei next door, who didn’t know what to think about. He was always worried and misty, and his eyes were blurred.The farewell atmosphere of the body was almost the same; it was necessary to mention Uncle Zhang at the door of the delivery room. He didn’t raise his eyelids when talking to people.
Experts’ tricks: Learn to “see no” to bad emotions, so-called “emotional violence” of “traumatic type” actually refers to the external “bad expression” of the psychological damage caused to the perceiver.
That is, through their expressions, others pass us a kind of negative, depression or anxiety, and cause intervention and stress at the same time.
Just like Liu Chao in the case, he thinks that the “bad expression” he can’t face calmly is actually three more typical portraits of numerical emotions-depression, sadness, and apathy.
Many of the “bad expressions” we see are actually a natural way of feedback after encountering setbacks and failures. They are often uncontrolled.
Maybe Wei Ran used the savings to invest the stocks all the way down, and was very disgusted; Maybe Sun Fei’s boyfriend broke up with her, which was unacceptable for a while; Maybe Uncle Zhang’s fetters, his waist flickered, his body was unwell, and naturally he lost”Short among parents”.
It’s actually very simple, but suspicion and suspicion start to make you restless.
“Did he look at me?
“Why does he always have this virtue?”
“When you transfer someone’s depression to yourself,” expressions “become a tool of violence.
Those who are bitter all day and do not speak, generally do not have strong self-regulation and control ability, can not treat things objectively, and will have negative emotions for many external discussions and assessments.
Experts suggest that you should “see without confusion”, think of others, and protect yourself, it can serve two purposes.
Case: “Internal Injury” Lace is a beautiful girl who works as a front desk in a five-star hotel. She is greeted with a smile every day.
But few people know that she often loses her temper when she gets home, picks and chooses when eating, can’t sleep in bed for a long time, and even tears easily.
Experts’ tricks: Barely strong people who overcome the pressure of “trauma” in “expression violence” are often forced to maintain a pleasant and natural attitude when their emotions are negative.
“Smiling depression” for the first time in clinical practice.
The beautiful expression that violates the true feelings will be more stressful than the natural reaction of “crowning face”.
In contrast, for the maker of expressions, when they are in a bad mood, they show a smile that is completely opposite to the real state, causing people to feel more tired and sad.
Among them, such an unscrupulous smile will send a false “happy” message to relatives and friends around you, so that when you should receive comfort and encouragement, you have to bear the pressure alone.
Experts suggest that the “smiling family” who has been in category jobs for a long time does not have a bright smile, but also a gentle manner, as long as it is within the code of professional ethics.